My Worst Trait | Jealousy

Jealously: the feeling or showing an envious resentment of someone or their achievements, possessions, or perceived advantages.

Jealously is such an ugly trait, because it can literally control your life. Unfortunately, I can get extremely jealous very easily, which is the number one thing I would change about myself. It destroys me so much, but the feeling that actually gets me really upset is when I think "That would never happen to me" because that one saying, that one repetitive statement that spirals my mind makes me feel absolutely melancholy. This is because for some reason every time I get jealous, I get in that mind set that it wouldn't happen to me because I'm me, but I'm no different to others who all thought the same.

There is a word called 'Sonder' which means 

"the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as our own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk." 

(credit to obscure sorrows)

We all live lives as real and vivid as your own, we all experience feelings, from ecstatic to depression, excitement to jealously. It's never just an individual feeling, everyone at some point felt the same thing, everyone at some point thought that 'it would never happen to me', but if it happened to them, it must happen to you at some point. 

Good things do happen to other people, but they also happen to us too. Like the picture says, Jealously is when you count someone else's blessings instead of your own. No matter what your life is like, I can guarantee something has made you happy in your life before, whether it was just momentarily or it really made you giddy. Something has made you feel happy that you are you, that you are the person experiencing this moment, and that is a blessing. 

We all get in this mind shape that other people have the best thing, that the memories or possessions we own don't scale up to the items or memories we desire. but of course they do. If they didn't, why would we call them our memories or possessions? to give things or simple imaginary scenes of the past such a high name must mean that they are precious to us. If we gave them to another person they would be worthless, because they don't mean anything to anybody else.

We focus on all the negatives in our life but don't concentrate on what we do have, subconsciously we take everything for granted. We all have so much to be happy for & I definitely need to keep telling myself this.

How to deal with jealously:
♥  Be happy for them, you would want them to be happy for you if something good happened to you.

♥  Don't make them feel bad for it, nobody should be made to feel bad because of their happiness.

♥  Appreciate that they most likely deserve it, for just being a nice person or if going through a hard time
(I know it's annoying that some people get everything when they don't deserve it as much as others, but be the bigger person and be happy for them. If they are only telling you to make you jealous, don't be mean about it but just acknowledge this and be happy for them.)

♥ Don't push them away, even if it does hurt you, you need to remember they most likely didn't have any bad intentions.
(If they did, then read the previous point and  be the better person)

♥  Turn your jealously into motivation, Jealously is just a word for "I want that", so why not get it? Believe me, I understand that that is easier said than done, but motivate yourself to do whatever makes you happy.
The one thing I have learnt is never try and predict life. There is no reason good things won't happen to you.

♥ Don't disrepct what they are proud of because you're jealous, try not to be like "oh that's not that awesome that you can paint really well" or "pft you met that band I really like? pft that's not that cool or amazing" because it will make them feel worthless and probably lonely, and nobody  is completely worthless, we all mean something to someone. 

♥  You may think "I need that more" or " I deserve that more" and don't feel bad about that, because it's humans nature to fend for ourselves so you would obviously want the best for yourself.

♥ Don't sweat it, good things will happen!

So to conclude, don't over-think why you didn't get that cool top or whatever, because you have a lot to be happy about. Yes you may not have that cool top, but why not go out and find a different cool top? Also, consider what you have & don't lose hope. Chances are, it's not the end of the world, just breathe and put on your favourite song.

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Sorry!

Hello everyone! First off, I am so sorry for the lack of posts recently, I have been ridiculously busy with exams, mentoring and DofE related things...yeah you can tell I'm back at school! I literally feel like I've been on my feet for the past week and I haven't had a proper time to sit down with a cup of tea and write a blog post! I hope you can understand, I haven't been deliberately not posting! So how has everyone been? *waits for you to respond* oooh right, sounds fun!  

So, I have my Duke of Edinburgh final this weekend, which incase you don't is a course which you can do alongside exams where it tests your mapping, teamwork and camping skills. It also means walking for a minimum of 6 hours with 10kg on your back for 2 days, which is not fun. The only fun thing is being with your friends, however it can get nasty if 5 girls are stress, tire and lost...the point is that it is meant to look very good on your CV.

I thought I would show you some practice expedition photos, and after the weekend I'll show you the real thing!

We're ready to hike!! From Left to Right: Lauren A, Lauren T, Alicia, Me, Holly.

The Lauren's!

We had an aim of the journey and ours was "wheres carys"...It was like where's wally but I'm the wally.

We just reached the top of a VERY big hill!

Me and Lauren in a field 

Where's Carys? ((the leaf makes it look like I have my middle finger up but I can assure you I don't))

Well this has been nice having a little catch up! 

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Billy and Me | Book Review

  

Hello everyone!! So I thought I would try something different a do a book review because this book 'Billy and Me' by Giovanna Fletcher, the lucky wife of Tom Fletcher from Mcfly, literally blew me away! It's a romantic novel which is normally something I would try to avoid at all costs, but this book drew me in because 1) It had been mentioned a lot on twitter so I thought I would give it a go. 2) Sadly, yes one of the reasons I bought it was because it was wrote by Tom Fletcher's wife, Giovanna would probably hate me for that but at least I bought the book right?! 

"Sophie May has a secret.

One that she's successfully kept for years. It's meant that she's had to give up her dreams of going to university and travelling the world to stay in her little village, living with her mum and working in the local teashop.

But then she meets the gorgeous Billy - an actor with ambitions to make it to the top. And when they fall in love, Sophie is whisked away from the comfort of her life into Billy's glamorous - but ruthless - world.

Their relationship throws Sophie right into the spotlight after years of shying away from attention. Can she handle the constant scrutiny that comes with being with Billy? And most of all, is she ready for her secret heartbreak to be discovered and shared with the nation?"

As soon as I picked up this book, I found it very very hard to put down! I read the first line of the blurb and I was already hooked,wanting to know what the secret was because I'm noisy like that. But I knew that this was a book that I will either love or hate, luckily I loved it! 

At points, I did feel like it got a bit cringy, but I think it worked in this book to demonstrate what their relationship was like to make it seem not so perfect as people might have thought. Also, there were also times where you kind of wanted it to be cringy because of the tension rising, you know when you just think "oh kiss already", and If an author can make you think & feel that then you know that they are a great author! Sometimes, I even found myself completely immersed in the book and started to feel the emotions of Sophie, like if she got angry, I released I was frowning! If she was happy, I was smiling and on a couple of occasions, I had to remind myself that it is just a book and I need to stop being genuinely angry towards people ha!  

The worst part of the book is when it ended, I was really unprepared and I'm sure if you read it, you will be too. I have found a new love for this book and I never ever wanted it to end. If  i'm honest, I genuinely didn't believe that I would enjoy this but it exceeded my expectations and escaped the stereotypical romance storyline, which is great. In my opinion, it closely relates to what Giovanna Fletcher's relationship was like at first with the busy heartthrob,Tom Fletcher. What I mean by this is that 'Billy and Me' shows that being in a relationship with an Actor, singer etc any profession in the media industry, does has it's ups and down's emotionally and physically: It's not all about living in the glam life. I find that it's also a reality check to many young girls like me who dream of marrying that singer or actor, that it won't be as perfect as you think. In the book, Giovanna also mentioned a really good line from when Sophie was talking to Billy: "Those teenage girls only imagine what you would be like, they don't know you"

I would highly recommend buying this book,  even if you aren't into the romantic novels like me! This book has found a snug place on my bookshelf next to John Green :-)

You can buy this book here from amazon if you are interested :-)

~Thanks for reading~

My Reaction To Your Reaction

Hello everyone! Well this post is mostly a response to my last post so to understand this you'll need to read that, sorry!

My last post was mainly about how I felt recently towards my blog etc etc and ironically, it was probably one of my post popular posts which is amazing as I felt like it wasn't just me, other bloggers had/are feeling like that now and people understood what I was saying (I thought that post was one of those things that only sounds good in your head, but obviously it sounded good in other people's too!) 

It was so nice to say how I felt and for people to relate and understand, I thought I might of had at least one mean comment but all of them were lovely and supportive :) 

So thank you everyone for it, it really blew me away! Hope you all enjoy this 3 day weekend, you all deserve it ♥

*Excuse the awful hand-writing*

~Thank you for reading~

Liebster blog award!

Hello everyone!! So to my surprise, I have been nominated for a blog award! Which is absolutely amazing and thank you so so much to +Tean Williams for nominating me! (This is her blog. Please check it out) 

So Here are the rules!! :) 

1. The nominee must link back to the blogger who nominated them.

2.The nominee must state 11 facts about themselves, and then answer the 11 question provided for them by the person who nominated them.

3.They nominee must then nominate bloggers with less than 200 followers, who they think deserve the recognition, and pose 11 new questions for them to answer.

4. They must then tell the bloggers who they have nominated about the award.

11 facts about me!:

So I did a recent post about 10 facts about me, so I need to do 11 more. By the end of this you'll know me from top to toe!

1. I prefer to get things done quickly then time my time to make a masterpiece. 

2. I'm 14 years old 

3. I have a really quirky fashion sense

4. I love mustaches

5. I'm a tweetaholic... I love twitter

6. I have a Cat called Poppy and a Dog called Chica - Both from animal rehoming shelters.

7. I volunteer at Cats Protection

8. I love Cats

9. I'm very indecisive

10. My eye colour changes from green to blue each day (they're blue at the moment)  

11. I make the best brownies

Now I have to answer the 11 questions set by +Tean Williams :)

1. Premium beauty or high-street?

Good question - Mostly High street.

2. Leggings or jeans?

Hmm jeans ... I wear jeans a lot more than I do leggings but i'd like to wear leggings more often .3. What is your favourite place to visit?

Well I haven't been very far in the world - I'd say the beach with my family and best friend :) 

4. Favourite scent of candle?

Oh my gosh this is a hard question - you would give me any candle and I'd love it! I'd say anything sweet - like Vanilla.

5. Favourite chocolate bar?

You're making me choose?! Probably a twirl :) 

6. Favourite Harry Potter character?

Right, this may be a weird choice but it would have to be voldemort because of the laugh he does in the final harry potter movie haha (Hiya Lauren) :')

7. Favourite movie?

I'd have to say Titanic. I just love it.

8. Your quote for life?

I have so many but this one is by far the best one for me:

" Good things come to those who wait, but the best things come to those who do."

9. Inspirations?

Zoella (blogger and youtuber) and Stefan Abingdon (Musician) You can read more about them here :)

10. Favourite food place?

Greggs. By far. It's not very classy but the food is mouthwatering aha

11. If you could change anything in the world what would it be??

I could answer this question in so many ways. I have literally been sitting looking at this question for a good 20 minutes. The honest answer is I don't know. There are so many things that need to change that I couldn't pick just a couple.

Right, I have nominated:

http://thelianey.blogspot.co.uk/

and these are the questions that you must answer :) Have fun!

1. Favorite Animal?

2. Favorite place to be?

3. Places you would like to visit?

4. If you could have a super power, what would it be?

5. What would be your dream job?

6. Who do you look up to?

7. Who would you like to meet?

8. Favorite time of year?

9. Favorite food?

10. Favorite TV show?

11. Favorite thing to do in your spare time? 

 ~ Thank you for reading! ~